Crazy Girl

Heres the thing girls. We can all be crazy at times, but the time important thing is to do it in the privacy of your home or with your closest girl friends. That way you won’t be judged. Most of the time we can see someone else acting crazy, but when it comes to calling ourselves out on it, it’s a bit harder. Easiest way to repel a guy is if you are a clinger. Keep that in mind for a stalker boy that doesn’t want to leave you alone. Hold up a behavior mirror to him, and he’ll be running for the hills.

I can’t emphasize enough how key playing hard to get it is. There is a limit to the amount of coy you should be throwing out there. That fine line of making sure you don’t come off not interested in him. If a guy wants to get into your pants, he’ll always want to get into your pants. There’s just a point of when he doesn’t want to work for it anymore. First, almost all guys tell me they think every girl is crazy. How could they not? Most girls have no self respect anymore. They throw themselves on every man possible, put themselves together in a way easiest to get out of, and beg for everyone’s attention. Not to mention, if they are seeing someone, they blow up their phone, cyber and physically stalk them, and nag them about every girl they look or talk to. Yeah, I’d clarify that as bat shit crazy. So how do you expect men to have a good idea of us in their head? Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for checking their facebook… a few times, and texting them first… once in a while. That is normal behavior. You gotta give a little to get a lot.

Why this topic comes into play is because I was recently asked to write an article, “7 Signs You’re Acting Like a Crazy Girl”, and I thought it was such a good idea that I had to share it here. What is sad to me is most of them time the girl doesn’t know she’s behaving like a nut job. Besides the article, I wanna throw out there when to realize you’re just not gonna get the guy. Sometimes we become that “crazy girl” because the guy we want just isn’t into us. He may be nice and respond to your texts, or tell you you’ll hang out but don’t, or flirts but it goes no where. We get excited about all these false promises that we create this fantasy in our heads that really isn’t the reality of the situation. I don’t blame you, attention from guys is intoxicating, but then you need to break it down and see what’s truly going on. Best thing is to try and step outside of yourself and see the situation from above. When I’m having a moment, I call my best girl friend and ask her, “if it was you telling me this, what would I tell you?”. It works every time. If you have to ask yourself, “do you think he’s into me?” then more probable then not, he isn’t. 

There are a few simple things to remember about guys that explain their behavior. The problem is trying to figure out which one fits your scenario. Guys don’t want to hurt you for no reason, so usually they are pity nice. They will respond to your text, but are short. If they aren’t inquiring about you in conversation, they don’t care to really talk to you. They might respond to you hours later with an excuse to make it sound better then, “i actually was ignoring you until I was bored enough to respond.” Then there’s false promises. Listen, if a guy isn’t following through with what he’s saying to you, he’s not interested in actually seeing you. Guys do like to lead girls on. Not always intentionally, but they like to have someone around they know wants them. It’s a good feeling, and male or female we all have or had someone like that. Then there’s the guys who just can’t grow a pair. This is a rare, barely ever the answer, situation. For what ever reason they have a fear thats preventing them from pursuing you. Whether it’s an old heart break, or they think they could see a relationship with you and aren’t emotionally ready for that, it holds them back. Some times a guy has a lack of self esteem that causes them to self sabotage themselves before they even make it to first base. Again, this is why I said rare case. Lastly, the obvious reality is he isn’t that into you. Maybe he’d hook up with you, one day, but if a guy really is interested in you, you know. His actions equal his words, or more. He puts in an effort. It’s clear and simple.

The hard part for girls is realizing he isn’t into you. It’s disappointing, absolutely. But no reason to become psycho over it. Try some acceptance around it and let it go. Worst thing you can do is push yourself on a guy. Pull away, as far as possible. Sometimes it even makes that guy not interested in you, interested. Thats why I said in the beginning if you are ever that girl in the situation with a boy who is more into you then you him, become overly attached to him. Think of how to lose a guy in 10 days. Use all the crazy girl symptoms below to the best of your ability. You’ll lose those needy clingers in a heart beat. In any case, you may just realize you’ll never want to be a crazy girl again. 

7 Signs You’re Acting Like a Crazy Girl:

1. Constantly Calling and Texting a Guy

Having to text a guy first, shame on him, having to text a guy four times, shame on you. Ladies, its definitely cool to text a guy first. A lot of guys are unsure if you are into them or not so It’s a way to let him know you’re approachable, but having to text him more times then that just screams needy. If he isn’t making the effort to contact you first, or even respond to you at all, he’s most likely not interested or scared of you. Give a guy space, and play that major card called, “hard to get.”

2. Asking Every Person if “He’s Into You” 

Yes, we all love to tell stories of that cute boy we hung out with or are talking to. What else are girlfriends for? But constantly having to ask other peoples opinion if he’s into you should show you a sign of crazy girl syndrome. When someone is into us we know it. Having to tell the same story over twenty times to people makes you look a little nuts. And truth be told needing to ask if he’s into you usually means he’s not.

3. Physical and Cyber Stalking

Thank you social media for sharing with me all the pictures of the guy i likes’ ex girlfriends, best friends, and places he hangs out. There is a difference between checking out your crush online, and spending 2 hours learning everything about him before getting to know him in person. A sign you’re acting crazy is sitting at his facebook page for more then 10 minutes. Another sign is hanging out every weekend at the spot you see him tagged in the most, waiting for him to hopefully show up. Instead update your profile with a cute picture of you and your best friend, and go out to a new spot you know your crush won’t show up to. Give him a chance to let him take you out to his favorite place himself. 

4. Always Available for Him 

The best advice I can give you is if a guy you like asks you out on a date, tell him you’re busy and offer him a different day or night. It shows you aren’t too eager and you have a life. When we pounce at any option to see him it takes out the mystery in his mind of whether we like him or not. A lot of girls don’t make plans to go out because they sit around waiting to hopefully hear from the guy they want to see. Ladies, your basing your plans off of a slight chance you might get a text or call? Don’t be nuts and blow off your friends. Go out and paint the town. If you end up hearing from him, just remember you are worth waiting for.

5. Emotionally Invested Too Soon

I will be the first person to admit that I enjoy having someone give me attention, make their move, and give me signs he’s into me. The crazy girl will take that to a new level and make it much more then it is. Falling in love on the second date because you had a fairy tale moment doesn’t exactly scream normal. Remember to emotionally move slow with a guy because most of the time he’s not as far along as you are.

6. Personality Change

A lot of times when women start dating a guy we start to morph ourselves into the person we think they want us to be. We forget they fell for who we were when they met us, and start to lose all those great personality traits that charmed those guys in the first place. Just because we hear them talk about the music they like, or style they find attractive, or looks that turn them on doesn’t mean we have to become that. If they didn’t like us in the first place, they wouldn’t have pursued us. Remember to stick to your authentic self, because being you is more sexy then becoming a robot we “think” they want.

7. Checking Your Phone Every Five Seconds

How many times a day do you stare at your phone hoping for a ring or that tri-tone text message to appear? Constantly looking at your phone is one of the biggest signs you’re acting like a crazy girl. Sometimes you just need to disconnect from technology and put your phone on silent. It’s not going to kill you. And if by chance you do hear from him, the time it takes for you to answer will show you aren’t sitting around by your phone. Think how it makes you feel having to wait to hear from him. Being detached from your phone just turned the tables, and boy it feels good to put him in your shoes.

 

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