Four Male Realizations

I want to share with you Four Male Realizations. These are things we always think about or over analyze but never feel like we have an answer to. Read these and it may help ease that case of the crazies you’re going through.

1. The Goodbye

Ever think about the awkward goodbye with the cute guy you just met? Sometimes we look back at how it went down. Was it awkward, did he hug me, did he even say goodbye? A friend of mine once described a goodbye as, “a guy’s last chance”. It’s that fleeting moment that gives someone the last chance to make an impression. A few options go along with this. If he doesn’t say goodbye it is because he either was too nervous or he is not interested. Each are usually blatantly clear but if you can’t see the difference then you need to probably go back to the beginning of this blog. There is the guy who makes an effort to make sure he can see you before you walk away. By the way girls, don’t go out of your way to say goodbye to a guy. Make it attainable but not mandatory. If a guy does say goodbye to you there is an interest there, don’t second guess it. Now hopefully the guy goes in for a hug. Any type of body touching is good. The length of the hug does matter. This all probably sounds extremely strange but think about it, he is a guy and he wants to feel you. If its a pull away hug that is just blah it doesn’t mean much. He’s just being sincere. If its a hug with a tight squeeze its an, “I definitely enjoy this” hug. Don’t be upset if he doesn’t lean in for the hug, he could just be too shy and doesn’t want to get in your space. The goodbyes are always tricky so try to make it easy on these poor fellows and go along with what ever they do.

2. Our Actions Equal Our Words, Their Actions Contradict Their Words

This is going to be short and sweet. I want you to think about something. When you text a guy, call a guy, or talk to a guy in person, the things you say you usually mean, right? Well, I want you to now think about the response you get from guys. How many times what they say to you they actually do or follow through on? I believe this is where the whole men are from mars and women are from venus thing comes into play. If we tell a guy how we feel and say we like to be texted and called and sent cute messages during the day and he says the same thing, how often do you actually get those messages, or how often does he actually respond to yours? I will let you make your own verdict to this hypothesis but I have found more times then not our actions match our words, and men, well they spit their game very well and thats as far as it goes. The exception is if he is really into you. His actions will go above and beyond what ever he says to you. Keep that in mind when you’re questioning if a guy is into you or not.

3. If He Doesn’t Want to Hook Up With You, It’s Clear

“It’s okay we can just be night time booty calls, I’m good with that.” PSH. Ladies, yes we all like to get laid, but most of the time we’re just saying that because the guy we want to bone doesn’t want anything more then sex. If you have already had sex with him and he’s somewhat ignoring you, take the hint. He won his challenge and just is not intrigued anymore. Becoming an easy sex hand out isn’t making a new challenge either, just makes you the back up to the person he wanted but couldn’t get. If you’re continually texting him to hang out at last call to either play video games, smoke a bowl, drink some wine, or watch the hang over, but you have only accomplished one task out of the four he’s really not interested. Randomly getting picked up as a booty call is low. Now, if you’re in the control position and turning down the offer often, isn’t it because you’re really not that interested? Turn it around. That “a-ha” moment you just had hopefully clears up any confusion you had about where you stood with your booty call. 

4. You’ll Know What Kind of Guy You Are Dealing With Within Two Weeks

He says he will call you and doesn’t, he will always be like that. He says he hates texting and rather talk on the phone but only texts you, he won’t talk on a phone. He says he wants to take you out to this restaurant or that place, it’s been almost two weeks and no sign of italian food or griffith observatory. Only way you’re going to see that is on your own time. Guys spend the first two weeks wooing you. This is where you see what kind of guy you’re getting to know. Is he chivalrous? Does he stick to his words? Is he trying to excite you with things? Or is he saying all the things you want to hear and not following through with anything? Thats another example of guys not owning their words. Give a guy two weeks to show you who he is. After two weeks if you’re disappointed don’t expect anything to change. Its only going to get worse so get out while you can.